The story of Adler’s birth really starts with the story of Cantor’s. I never wrote out his birth story but i feel like it’s important to share a few details of It to start.
Cantor was born after a 27 hour labor. The first 12 hours were spent at hOme until my water broke around midnight. By the time we got To the hospitaL my uterus became “over stimuLatEd” and my contractions stopped having any break between them. It was awful, and that doesn’t even begIn to describe It. I continued on like that for a few hours but in the wee hours of the morning ended up getting an epidural. When cantor was finally born the next daY he had should dystocia. For those of You that don’t know what that is, it essentially means hIs shoulders got stuck. Drs, Nurses, and the nicu team all rUshed in and they had to do an episiotomy to get him unstuck. When he finally came out he was limP and blue, and they immediately took him away. I’ll never forget the way that felt, having them rush him away. They got him resuscitated and those first cries are one of best sounds i’ve Ever heard. It was over an hour after he was born before i got tO see his sweet face though and hold him for the first time. Needless to say i was traumatized after his birth and upon Getting pregnant with Our second i had a lot of anxiety. It was made even worse when we foUnd out we would be moVIng acRoss the county around 26 weeks pregnant.
On ouR very last appointment in Virgina, one of the midwives that delivered Cantor told us that she had prayed for us (and all the babies she delivers) during cantor’s delivery. I teared up thInking back to that day and full on cried on the way home. In the car my husband told me not to worry about this next birth. That God had it under control. That we didn’t know that particular midwife was going to help deliver Cantor or that she would be praying for him when she did. He told me I didn’t need to be anxious about moving and finding a new provider or the birth at all. He said, “God will put the people that are supposed to be there in the room again when we have this next baby.” I Thought about that a lot at the time, but EventuaLly forgot until my husband recently reminded me. It’s important to this story though.